One of the best features for me at a Conference is hearing different voices, challenges, ideas, thoughts and even just stylist concepts. Today at the General Assembly of UK Unitarians I got that in full.

It started as the somewhat dry John Reilly Beard lecture but presented by the somewhat thoughtful, provocative and engaging Carla Grosch-Miller.  The John Reilly Beard Lecture lead by Carla starts with an illustration of the dead and the living in the biblical world of the near East of the Mediterranean.

Everyone is asked to stand and the first three rows seated immediately (died in early infancy, before their first birthday), next two rows seated to illustrate those who died by the age of 5, then the next two rows reaching the age of 14/15/16 or so. And then the women of th elect hand side were seated a women had a shorted life expectancy in that society and that left barely a quarter of the audience still standing. And this illustration of the expectation of sexual rights and the propagation of children and child birth becomes somewhat understood and perhaps even appreciated.

This sort of inclusive and demonstrative lecturing is very strong in achieving memorable content for any lecturer and is a superbly example of where conferences are enhanced through the recruitment of experts, specialists or qualified individuals who add value. In the conferences I have attended this demonstration would have been helpful in understanding the ancient world (even up to late Victorian England), understanding the stigmas around sex and sexuality and indeed understanding the hatred and fear of homosexuality, other modes of sex, sexuality and the notion of adultery and possession through marriage.

But for right now I find the content of sexual attitudes over the years fascinating, illuminating and indeed directly relevant. I am married as a result of the Same Sex Marriage Act 2013 to my same sex partner. Under the terms of that Act there is no requirement for consumption of marriage nor are there ability for adultery to take place. The core rationale for these is that it avoids having to define adultery in the modern world, removes needs for evidencing such and means that sodomy at it's most extreme is not required for consumption, nor does it need to be proven for adultery.

Now simply by writing this I realise I might sound shocking - but it's revelatory and refreshing that here are a group of people, a faith, a chapel and a movement who are unshackled by the human religious stereotypes and are engaged and passionate about the reality of life. I'm in the right place.